Irritableness and Our Way of Thinking

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Love “is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil”. (1 Corinthians 13:5/KJV).

Here is yet another post on anger and being overly sensitive. The phrase immediately following in 1 Corinthians 13:5 inspires me for today’s post.

How can we avoid being insecure and irritable? I guess some key would be in our way of thinking.

  • What do you consider important? What are your priorities?
  • What are your goals in life? How do you plan to achieve these goals?
  • What do you need to feel secure and happy? What are your ways to recover your strength?

All this has something to do with your thoughts. We all adhere to concepts that we hold true. These have a considerable effect on our behavior and our emotions.

Admittedly, this is somewhat psychological today. Actually, psychologists in counseling may try to find out and fathom such underlying ideas their clients accept as factual.

However, what I am writing today is not only for social scientists, doctors and the mentally ill. Any Christian reading the bible will come across the challenge to reconsider his or her way of thinking.

Take for example Romans 12: 2: ”And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” (KJV).

Love Thoughts

Or again have a look at 1 Corinthians 13:5. Perhaps take the Amplified Version: Love “is not provoked [nor overly sensitive and easily angered]”. Are you giving enough room to love thoughts in your life? Love motives may help you cope with various situations.

The apostle Paul here is devoting a whole chapter to the issue of love. He just has been encouraging believers to go after the ability to help others grow in faith (chapter 12). Then he has begun to stress the overall importance of love.

How to attain unto that kind of love described by the apostle?

One vital step certainly would be to pray for it. Ask God that He might teach you that kind of love.

Ask God to forgive your sins. Ask Him to fill you with the Holy Spirit. Be teachable and study the bible.

Love is a fruit of the Holy Spirit (cf. Galatians 5:22). Do whatever helps you grow in faith and become more sensitive to the still small voice of the Holy Spirit!

How to attain unto that kind of love? To answer this question you might also read or reread a previous post of mine following this link: Jealousy and Envy, Attitudes not Pleasing to God.”


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Growing in Understanding

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“Something is going wrong here. I just cannot relate to this kind of behavior I am encountering just now. This is so different to all that I am used to.”

 “I do not like this kind of being dealt with.”

“Unexpected and unprepared for obstacles can become a hindrance to my achieving essential goals!”

“This situation is altogether unacceptable to me!”

I guess these are feelings many can relate to. Of course, we do not always consciously name or describe such feelings.

Often we are very quick in reacting. We do not linger on analyzing our circumstances. Rather we focus on the way we act on these.

I can spontaneously think of two possible reactions. You either might get aggressive and angry or you might end up feeling insecure and intimidated.

Some would say that insecurity very often is an aspect of displayed anger. You do not want to show any weaknesses so you burst out ferociously. Or you are not sure what to make of some situation and you immediately register that the people involved are somewhat below your standards.

All this could be a psychological description of anger. You feel provoked. You feel intensely irritated.

In 1 Corinthians 13:5 St. Paul says that love “is not easily provoked”. As soon as you give way to ill-feeling you are not focussing on love anymore. Annoyance is not an aspect of love.

My headline for today’s post has been “Growing in Understanding”. Rather than dwelling on our negative feelings we might consider such situations as a challenge to grow.

We might think about how things look from the other’s point of view. How would I react, if I were in exactly the same situation as the other persons involved are? This might be a key to better cope.

My second suggestion is more of a spiritual nature. I might ask what would God have me learn from this situation. What does the bible say about similar circumstances?

Of course, a Christian might always think of Romans 8:28: “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”– Keeping this in mind you might burst out saying: Hallelujah, God would have a wonderful way for me to grow even in such unpleasant situations!


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