“Be Patient with Me!”


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“Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be so to repay the debt. The servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ The servant’s master took pity on him, cancelled the debt and let him go.

But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow- servants who owed him a hundred denarii. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded. His fellow-servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.’

But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened.” (Matthew 18:23-31/NIV).


This is a well known parable of Jesus. Jesus told this story upon Peter’s question how often he should forgive his brother.

Currently I am not writing on forgiveness but on patience. Two times in this narration we hear somebody plead: “Be patient with me and I will pay back what I owe.”

I chose this narrative to illustrate the meaning of St. Paul’s words: “Love is patient, love is kind.” (1 Corinthians 13:4a/NIV).

Here we find two individuals pleading for patience. Both of them are debtors and currently unable to pay what they owe.

The king was patient and compassionate with his servant. He acknowledged his servants willingness. He realised that his servant was not able to pay this sum.

One lesson we can learn here about patience is the following. It is good to be patient with those who for some reason are unable to do what we (perhaps rightfully) expect of them.





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Getting Upset


Losing temper commonly is referred to as the opposite of being patient. You fail to present yourself in the way you like to be seen by others. You don’t keep calm as you prefer to. You are hastily saying things that you even might regret later on.

You feel something is going wrong. You are not sure what to make of something another person says or does.

You don’t have a ready concept on how to deal with a situation. You lose your composure. Per chance you tend to feel hurt or disappointed. At the same time you may feel bad about your own reaction and behaviour.

Such things may happen in any human relationship. People who professionally care for other men and women may know of such incidents too.

If you should be living in a foreign country with a foreign culture at times you may painfully realise that people round you have a way of thinking different from your own. They may react emotionally and be upset about things you would not care much about – and vice versa.

Little children tend to have their own peculiar way of thinking. At times they prove to be completely unaware of adult businesslike concepts of effective behaviour.

Special needs children may feel very differently about certain things. They may fail to appreciate what we might expect from them.

Elderly individuals may be strange at times. Those suffering from dementia may suddenly behave in ways that they might have objected to themselves in younger days. This can be especially irritable to family members.

Old people may be unhappy about losing strength and various abilities. Forgetfulness may be another problem area. To family members this can be a painful situation.

Life presents various opportunities to lose temper. There may be many situations that make us feel upset.

Introducing us to his 13th chapter in 1 Corinthians St. Paul has said he wanted to point us to a better way. In spite of various gifts, skills and abilities at times we may fail to adequately deal with certain situations.

Love and appreciation may be a bridge. People may not understand your language or the words you say. Yet they will be aware of your attitude towards them.

According to St. Paul somehow faith in God is a source of such love. As we become aware of how loving and patient God is with ourselves we may learn to be patient with others too.

Here is 1 Corinthians 13:4 according to the PHILLIPS translation: “This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience – it looks for a way of being constructive. It is not possessive: it is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.”



This post has been partly inspired by an article of another blogger. The author of “Sometimes Care Giving Stinks” usually writes about experiences in living with and raising an autistic child. In the following I am giving you a link to one of his posts. Here he also refers to caring for a person with dementia. He provides some interesting links. Reading this post may help you understand what per chance could incite us to lose our temper.

” Only human | Sometimes Care Giving Stinks

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